Its much much easier to say than to do!

Its been a very tough and draining time for me. I have had so much to share, to say, to write to make sense of. I have had so many thoughts, some completely abstract, come and rent space in my head. I have not found nor made the time to sift through them and make sense of them, but I found in important to say this.

You can read books as thick as your well toned thighs, with big words that neither you nor your learned friends can pronounce. You can google and research. You can write and read thesis'. You can listen and educate yourself on issues. You can have a PHD degree Cum Laude on phylosophy or pshychology. Your title can be Proff or Dr....some issues you will never comprehend until you have gone through them.

Its so easy to stand on the outside to give instructions, to question and judge from the outside. Its easy to point a finger. Its a breeze to say : Build a bridge and get over it or the more common 'move on'. Its easier to say than to do. We forget that context plays a huge role, then there is background, upbringing, beliefs, habits, situations, timing, faith, values etc to take into consideration. You may have been raised in the same city, by parents who earned the same, went to the same school or even better in the same household but your frame of reference is not the same. It can never be. You are two different people.

We all stand on the outside and make interesting yet wrong pronouncements on what we would have done had we been in the same situations. There's nothing wrong with advise - it always comes from a good place, from people who care; mara we have to understand and embrace the peace in our souls if and when our advise is not been taken. It is afterall a 'use it' - 'dont use it' situation.

You will never know, no matter how learned or trained you are, until you have gone through the same situation. So lets not judge or question from a place of authority as if we have been there ourselves. Our place is to support, intercede in the form of prayer and listen (some talk more than the aggrieved person - haaiboh). They seem to know more about the situation than the soul thats going through it.

We need to allow and empower individuals to heal and deal in a manner that speaks to their spiritual and mental capacity. Permit them to operate in their own vision.Yes you may be a stronger person but that's you . There is a serious issue with imposing our strength on others. You see they may take your strength, embody it, move and deal at your pace and tone....very soon they will bomb out, simply because they are operating outside on their capabilities. Being forceful and judgemental can only alienate the person concerned.

Indeed there is always a place for guidance from an objective source, that helps put things in perspective and may be able to device a  way forward.
You'r loved
M.M